Have you ever felt demotivated and discouraged when someone talks shit about your favorite sports, team, nation, or anything else which you are attached to?
If yes, then you need to consider the followings.
First off, there are two types of criticism, constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Constructive criticism helps you to become a better person and destructive criticism is only meant to hurt and demoralize you.
If yes, then you need to consider the followings.
First off, there are two types of criticism, constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Constructive criticism helps you to become a better person and destructive criticism is only meant to hurt and demoralize you.
Constructive criticism
As mentioned above, constructive criticism helps you become a better person, it is meant to tell you the harsh realities about you or anything else you like. Your teacher, good friends and parents criticize you constructively to become a better person for tomorrow. This type of criticism may be in a harsh tone and a soft tone as well. The person who criticizes you telling the realities about you or anything you like is not meant to demoralize you.
Dealing with constructive criticism
To deal with constructive criticism you must be open-minded, having a big heart to accept the dark realities, but if you feel demoralized, you need to become a better person to accept the realities. Nobody's perfect, nor you. If you find yourself perfect, it means you don't know yourself as you must know.
If somebody criticize you for a good cause thank him if he talks in a soft tone, accept the reality and improve yourself next time. Don't get sensitive to constructive criticism.
If you teachers criticize you for your grades, parents for improving your personality and character or friends for being good to others, don't take it personally. It's meant to improve you, not to demoralize you.
Destructive criticism
Destructive criticism is only meant to disturb your mental peace, it may come from a fr-enemy, hypocrite or may be from an older person.
You must know that who is criticizing you constructively and who is doing that destructively. You must observe the face expressions and words of that particular person. If words are rude and it seems the person is bragging from his face expressions, you must know that it's meant to disturb you.
Dealing with destructive criticism
Instead of getting angry at that particular person, you should deal with it wisely. You should know the background of the person, who is yelling at you.
If he/she is an older person, you must know the background, he/she must be going through some severe conditions, maybe at home. So you should deal with it wisely, know the pain of that person, if his/her tone is loud and harsh, you should remain silent, but if his tone is soft, try to console him/her. That would be good for you and for that person as well.
If one of your peers criticize you, observe him clearly. He/She must be jealous of you or your progress. Observe him/her clearly, listen to him/her. Question him/her why he/she doesn't like you or anything about you. Listen to their answer, if they seem to hurt you, just brag it off and move on to the next topic. Don't take it personally, ignore everything and don't ever take his/her shit seriously. Turn the topic to humor.
If they say you look like a creep in white jacket, just brag it off saying, "Don't be jealous, its your brother's style", or anything like that. If a hypocrite talks shit about you, know that hypocrites always do it. Criticism is meant to groom you, so just play it wisely.
If you have any questions or queries, feel free to comment below.
If they say you look like a creep in white jacket, just brag it off saying, "Don't be jealous, its your brother's style", or anything like that. If a hypocrite talks shit about you, know that hypocrites always do it. Criticism is meant to groom you, so just play it wisely.
If you have any questions or queries, feel free to comment below.
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